I’m (30s F) struggling with a situation involving my husband (30s M) and his best friend’s wife, “Anna” (30s F). Recently, I accidentally saw a text from Anna on his phone where she was venting about her marriage issues. Turns out, she’s been regularly calling and texting him about this for weeks, and he never mentioned it to me. When I asked him about it, he got defensive, insisted he was “just being a good friend,” and we ended up in a huge fight.
What bothers me most is the secrecy. Why hide this? He says I’m overreacting and that Anna trusts him, but I’m hurt he didn’t set boundaries or involve me, especially since we’re all mutual friends. Now I’m questioning if there’s more he’s not telling me, or if I’m being unreasonable for feeling uneasy.
